Judi: Posted on Thursday, August 9, 2012 10:07 PM
I just read that August 5 - 11 is National Smile Week. So, this is a great week to practice your half smile skill. Research shows that smiling lowers blood pressure, relieves stress, decreases depression and boosts immunity. Half smiles put people at ease and create a positive atmosphere that can help interpersonal relationships and emotional regulation. So, why not extend this week by making smiling a daily habit!
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Posted on Monday, May 14, 2012 8:11 AM
It is easier to go down hill than up, but the view is from the top.
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Judi: Posted on Saturday, March 3, 2012 12:34 PM
Someone just showed me a youtube video that illustrates Radical Acceptance so I want to recommend it to you. You can find it at http://youtube/watch?=dSsAEWKmBFU. Enjoy!
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Judi: Posted on Thursday, February 16, 2012 6:31 AM
Week of 2/7/12 - Suppose you have tried and failed again and again. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down. Mary Pickford
Week of 2/14/12 - Change your thoughts and you change the world.
Norman Vincent Peale
Week of 2/21/12 - Be Mindful of the Positive (Velcro Mind) and Unmindful of the negative (only mindful enough to keep you safe for that moment. Then let it go.) (Teflon mind) DBT Philosophy
When you walk through a garden are you looking for the roses or the thorns?
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Judi: Posted on Wednesday, February 15, 2012 8:05 PM
It is time for me to catch up on my Thought of the Week. I give one of these to my clients each week and ask them to spend some time during the week thinking about the quote and considering how it might be meaningful in their life. I include the author's name when I know it. Unfortunately, some of these thoughts were given to me without an author being identified.
On here you will be seeing several Thoughts of the Week at once, but feel free to consider them one week at a time as they are intended.
Week of 1/10 - A New Year of DBT- See this on my website
Week of 1/17 -I may not be there yet but I am closer than I was yesterday.
Week of 1/24 People who have been hurt often end up greeting the world wearing a heavy protective armor. Other people might misinterpret this protective armor as anger and respond by putting up their own armor and feeling angry, scared, intimidated or acting distant. When you let down your heavy protective shield and replace it with an invisible shield and a half smile. people feel safer and don't think they have to be on guard around you. They tend to act nicer, warmer, softer and be friendlier. Imagine you are a dog approaching another dog --- and wag your tail to let the other dog know that you are friendly!
Week of 1/31 - I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving. Oliver Wendell Homes
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Judi: Posted on Monday, November 28, 2011 11:53 PM
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Judi Sprei: Posted on Tuesday, September 27, 2011 6:03 PM
While relaxing in a bookstore this past weekend I came across the following poem. I have often told my clients that we all tend to compare our insides to other people's outsides. I believe Jon describes just that experience in this poem. Hope you enjoy it and use it to realize that you are not alone. Judi My Daughter Says by Erica Jon My daughter says she feels like a Martian that no one understands her, that one friend is too perfect, and another too mean and that she has the earliest bedtime in her whole class.
I strain to remember how a third grader feels about love, about pain and I feel a hollow in my heart where there should be blood and an ache where there should be certainty
My darling Molly, no earthlings ever lived who did not feel like a Martian, who did not curse her bedtime, who did not wonder how she got to this planet, who dropped her here and why and how she can possibly stay. I go to bed whenever I like and with whomever I choose, nut still I wonder why I do not belong in my class, and where my class is anyway, and why so many of them seem to be asleep while I toss and turn in perplexity.
They, meanwhile, imagine I am perfect and have solved everything; an earthling among the Martians, at home on her home planet, feet planted in green grass.
If only we could all admit that none of us belongs here, that all of us are Martians, and that our bedtimes are always too early or
too late.
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Judi: Posted on Thursday, June 23, 2011 10:49 PM
I have been increasing hearing that my website is being used as the go-to place to explain DBT to patients in various hospitals, Universities and treatment facilities throughout the United States. I had no idea! I am honored and so pleased to hear this. I never thought I could create a website. I was amazed and thrilled when I actually was able to create this site. I am even more amazed and thrilled to hear that it is being viewed and being found so helpful to so many people. Thank you all so much.
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Judi: Posted on Thursday, June 23, 2011 10:37 PM
If you have not already read it, please don't miss the article about Marsha Linehan on the front page of today's New York Times. I am awed by Linehan's courage in revealing so much about her own struggles with mental illness. Her revelations have already, in just this one day, inspired hope in so many people. Several patients have already said that knowing what was behind the development of DBT has already increased their trust in this form of treatment. Knowing what the creator of DBT has gone through in her own life has increased their own motivation to do the difficult work needed in order to heal. I applaud Marsha for sharing of herself in this way, for her strength in accepting her own issues and for the validation she has given to so many people who are still struggling. The commitment she has to help others that is so evident in her research, is even more evident in her self revelations today. Thank you Dr. Linehan.
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Judi: Posted on Friday, April 15, 2011 2:15 PM
Learn to be quiet enough to hear the sound of the genuine within yourself so that you can hear it in other people. Marian Wright Edelman (Quaker saying) In DBT language, this is similar to getting in touch with Wise Mind.
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